How To Write A Love Letter

How To Write A Love Letter

How To Write A Love Letter | 7 Tips to Writing an Epic Love Letter!

We put together seven tips for you on how to write a love letter that you can read at your engagement session or even your next date night!

There is nothing -and I mean NOTHING- quite like getting a handwritten love letter. The thought and intention that goes into a handwritten love letter is far superior to the spoken word or – and I can’t believe I have to say this – text message. Of course, that’s just my opinion but oh, the romance! Which is exactly why we love to incorporate this practice into our engagement sessions. We’ve put together a few tips for you on how to write a love letter that you can read at your engagement session or even your next date night!

Decide on the Tone of Your Love Letter Ahead of Time

Take a moment before you begin planning your love letter to decide on the overall tone of your letter. This could be as simple as deciding between a funny, lighthearted letter or a deep, romantic letter. TIP – If you’re going for waterworks, opt for a tone of deep and passionate romance.


Writing a Love Letter Requires Speaking From the Heart

When considering how to write a love letter, it is best to speak in a language that the heart already knows; love. Before even thinking about putting pen to paper, you have to put yourself in the right head and heart space. Find yourself a quiet and distraction free spot and get comfy. You may want to bring a pen and notepad along with you for this bit.

Once you’re settled, close your eyes and begin to bring your focus to your fiancé and all the things you enjoy about your relationship with them. Pay attention to any thoughts, words, feelings, or visualizations that come to your mind with ease. These will likely be the starting points and themes to draw from when writing your letter.

The goal of this exercise is to really narrow down and identify your own feelings so that you can articulate them in your letter. You want your fiancé to be able to feel what you feel while they are reading your letter. If you can’t make sense of your feelings, chances are, they won’t be able to either.


Share Your Favorite Memories Together

Writing about some of your favorite memories of the time you’ve spent together is a great starting point to a legendary love letter. But make sure you take it a step further and share why those memories made it your top 5. To get you thinking about things a little bit deeper, ask yourself some of these questions.

  • How did you feel during that time spent together?
  • What emotions are brought to the surface when you reminisce on that memory?
  • Why does that memory carry special meaning for you?
  • Does it remind you of something else important that happened in your life?

When You Write a Love Letter - BE VULNERABLE

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change” – Brene Brown. I adapted this quote a while back to a version that I think better applies to this situation.

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of strength, connection, and growth”.

When you expose your rawest and truest self to the person you love, there is an immeasurable opportunity for connection and growth, not only as individuals, but as a couple as well. Vulnerability really is the meat and potatoes of every strong and lasting relationship. I also know that allowing for vulnerability is difficult and scary. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable in your love letter to your fiancé can be a pivotal moment in your relationship together. And wouldn’t it be incredible to capture that very moment to look back on and cherish for years to come?


Sometimes Less Is More

It’s okay to keep things simple. You don’t have to write a 5 page love letter with a quill and ink. So long as the message is heartfelt and sincere, you can still write a powerful masterpiece of a love letter. There’s no need to force something that doesn’t come naturally. But that’s not to say that you shouldn’t put some real thought and effort into this too.

Avoid the Superficial

We know physical appearance often plays a big part in love and attraction. However, we suggest you avoid making your fiancé’s physical features the primary focus of your love letter. Instead, focus on who they are as a person at their very core and why you fell in love with them in the first place. 


We can’t stress this enough! If you plan on reading your love letter aloud to your fiancé during your engagement session, you have to practice ahead of time. Make sure it flows smoothly. Memorize it if you have to. Even if you would prefer to have your fiancé read it privately, reading it out loud will ensure that everything makes sense and conveys what you intend.

 Absolutely nothing will ruin the moment more than having your fiancé ask for clarification about what you wrote. This includes handwriting! Take your time to write a fresh copy free of scratch marks and editing.

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